Social Distancing #4: Happy 66th Anniversary, Mom & Dad

Today’s my parents’ 66th anniversary.

Here’s what I wrote about their 58th anniversary:

https://cyclingrandma.wordpress.com/2012/04/04/happy-58th-anniversary-mom-dad/

Due to Covid-19, we can’t join them to celebrate and I couldn’t find anywhere that delivers dinners where they live. After 58 years in their house, where I grew up, they sold the property. My brother, who lives nearby, and has already been in and out of their house in the past several weeks of social distancing, is working like mad to clean things out and prepare for their move to a senior living apartment. Unfortunately, my sisters and I can’t travel from out of state to help.

I know the isolation is hard for them, as it is for the rest of us. For many months, they’ve already been quite housebound. Family and friends have taken them to medical appointments. When I visit, I do errands and we visit my father’s sister, Lillian, who lives in New Haven. Now she’s quarantined in her apartment.   This latest social distancing is harder. My mother, until three weeks ago, enjoyed a senior exercise aquatic class at the local YMCA. They aren’t technically skilled– facetime, zoom and all eludes them .

I can only hope that we can celebrate their milestone at some point. They grew up during the Depression and World War II. They faced many challenges. This is another one.

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Social Distancing Diary #3: A Hike & Ice Cream

Our son met us at a local park for a short hike yesterday. My husband remarked that the scene was surreal– on one hand a gorgeous, sunny, warm day; lots of people outside hiking, biking, walking dogs, all keeping distant from each other. Yet on the other hand, we’re all anxious.

Seeing the grands after more than two weeks during which their world and everyone else’s has turned upside down provided some comfort and semblance of normalcy. We hiked through the woods and the boys especially loved climbing on rocks, exploring hollowed out trees, and chasing each other over bridges. My grand-daughter preferred to walk the dog; she misses seeing him on a regular basis.

I had bought ice cream sandwiches and took great care to  keep them frozen: insulated freezer bag inside a hard-sided cooler, surrounded with as many ice packs as I could cram inside. They kept frozen enough to enjoy and I had plenty of hand-wipes for washing before and after eating. We hope to do this sort of outing again next week. In the meantime, I sent them some cards with jokes and art projects. Maintaining a normal grandma relationship is challenging but not undoable.

A college friend sent me a letter from the Edna St. Vincent Millay Society, that described the efforts being taken to keep poet’s legacy and the many natural wonders of the location alive. Several species of rare butterflies and dragonflies have been identified on the property, known as Steepletop.  We had visited the farm in 2017. Edna St. Vincent Millay: Happy 125th Birthday!

The letter closes with some apt lines of Millay’s,  written in 1950, about living in postwar America.

From the apprehensive present, . . .
Let us turn for comfort to this simple fact:
We have been in trouble before … and we came through.

Try to find some normalcy in every day. Ice cream helps.

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Social Distancing Diary #2: Teatime

My husband is reading Erik Larson’s book, The Splendid and the Vile,about Winston Churchill and London during the Blitz. Often, when we’re reading something that engages or amuses us, we read passages to each other. Such was the case with Chapter 36, “Teatime.” Larson describes the British obsession with tea drinking.

…”The one universal balm for the trauma of war was tea. It was the thing that helped people cope. People made tea during air raids and after air raids, and on breaks between retrieving bodies from shattered buildings. Tea bolstered the network of thirty thousand observers who watched for German aircraft over England, operating from one thousand observation posts, all stocked with tea and kettles. Mobile canteens dispensed gallons of it, steaming, from spigots. . … Tea was comfort and history; above all, it was English. As long as there was tea, there was England. But now the war and strict rationing that came with it threatened to shake even the most prosaic of pillars.

Frederick Lindemann, one of Churchill’s advisors, advocated against rationing of the commodity, saying “the wisdom of a 2 ounce tea ration is open to serious doubt,” noting that for many tea provided their “principal luxury,” and undermined morale. Lindemann’s efforts were to no avail; the tea ration was raised to 3 ounces a week and remained in effect until 1952.

My local yoga studio offers tea, served in glass cups. The flavor, Celestial Seasoning’s Bengal Spice, is an herbal, caffeine- free blend that includes cinnamon, roasted chicory, roasted carob, ginger, cardamom, black pepper, cloves and nutmeg and other natural flavors. I bought a few boxes for myself and love how it soothes the senses in scent and taste.

Now yoga is online and I brew my own tea. My writing group is online; I miss the face-to-face meetings. We watched a pianist friend of ours, Misha Piatigorsky, perform a solo concert, live-streamed from the Saltbox Gallery, a venue in Brooklyn.  It was lovely and relaxing, but not like being there. I’m trying to adjust. My dinner party with my siblings and their spouses, a sort of annual tradition I began a few years ago, has been postponed. Hopefully we’ll find another date in 2020. Broadway is closed; this week we have tickets with friends to see the new West Side Story. I’ll play the CD and sing along.

I can’t call my son to ask about the grandchildren without crying. I don’t know when life will return to normal. I’ve promised to never complain again. About anything.

But for now, I’ll sip my tea and try to stay calm.

Stay safe, my friends.

 

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Social Distancing? Here’s some Books to Read!

When I heard a library in a nearby town was closing due to Covid-19, I rushed to mine to stock up for the self- quarantine ahead. Here’s some titles I’ve read in the past few weeks.

American Dirt. I don’t understand the criticism. If we start demanding cultural appropriation for everything we read and watch, we’ll be left with little. In the midst of virus obsessing, maybe it’s easy to forget that there are children in cages in the US. This book reminds us and should keep us good and angry on Election Day.

Apeirogon is a mathematical term that defines “a shape with a countable infinite number of sides.” That itself is a paradox and Colum McCann’s use of the term to describe the political, historical, and geographic situation in Israel and the relationship between Israelis and Palestinians is one of the cleverest accounts I’ve ever read. He tells the story of two fathers, one Israeli, one Palestinian, who each lost daughters to violence. They become friends, speaking out about peace. Read it.

A 12-year-old is the sole survivor of a plane crash that takes his family in Dear Edward. How he survives after is the story. Quick read.

I listened to Isabel Allende’s Long Petal of the Sea. History and romance spanning decades. I also listened to The Lager Queen of Minnesota; finally a book that made me laugh out loud. A welcome respite!

We started watching The Hunters, a compelling Al Pacino as a Nazi hunter in NYC in the 1970’s, based on true events. We also started Bonfire of Destiny, also based on true events, and await the Philip Roth’s Plot Against America. In between, we watch debates. Thanks to social distancing, I may actually complete an interminable needlepoint project and cut into my yarn stash.

And about social distancing. Having a dog makes us get out for walks. We’ve got plenty of food, though I question the wisdom at the grocery store that allowed for long lines as everyone stocked up. For me, the hardest part is not being able to see the grandkids. Heartbreaking.

Stay healthy everyone. Send me your reading and watching suggestions!

 

 

 

 

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Alexander Weinstein’s Universal Love

I recently took a long plane ride to visit grandchildren living in Israel and then had a few days in London on the way home. I had a chance to read Alexander Weinstein’s new collection of short stories, Universal Love. The eleven stories are futuristic tales about our relationships to our partners, our children, our friends and colleagues, and our planet. They utilize imaginative technology in ways to demonstrate how we communicate with each other.

I thought about these stories when I entered England from Israel. I was “fast-tracked” so could slide through the immigration security line without waiting. I scanned my passport and the gate opened, I went through. There was no human interaction, no questions about the purpose or length of my stay. Likewise, when I returned home, I easily used my Global Services and TSA-Pre status to repeat the procedure, completely avoiding any human contact. There was no stamping of my passport, no “welcome home,” comment from US TSA officials.

While Alexander’s stories expose the permeation of technology in every facet of life, in many ways we’re already there. People are in front of screens all the time. I still read real books and newspapers, though I have an e-reader. What I miss with the e-reader is that I can’t see what people are reading, there’s no entry into a conversation about the book, the author, tastes in reading when you can’t see the titles. People walk around plugged in, stuffing Q-tip like appendages in their ears. They’re on the phone, they’re listening to podcasts, but whatever they’re doing, it precludes interruption for conversation. Biometric technology is already common place, as are all the hazards: hacking of personal data, hacking of community computer systems and coffers, and hacking of elections.

Here’s comments on a few:

In “The Year of Nostalgia”, a grieving family is able to connect with their deceased wife and mother through an app called Nostalgia. She’s able to reappear as a hologram.

The parents in “We Only Wanted Their Happiness” have chips removed from their children to reduce their addiction to screens.

In “Childhood,” two robots, Joey and Lacey are adopted as children. Lacey starts to remove her emotion card and later runs away, leaving Joey to question his existence: is he a son or merely a consumer item?

Alexander addresses world issues with three stories addressing climate change and one immigration. They’re edgy and provocative. They’re just enough above the norm to be speculative fiction, yet they’re eerily too close for comfort.

At a reading and book signing this week at the cozy Community Bookshop in Brooklyn,  I had the chance to hear Alexander (who happens to be my cousin), speak about this book and his writing process. His first collection, Children of the New World, published in 2016, took him 10 years to write. Following that publication, he was immediately signed to create another, which he did in two years, writing 14 stories at the same time. Several stories from the first book are in the process of being made into movies.

These are both great books for teens to adults and great for book club discussions.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Holiday Movies: Dark Waters, Little Women, & Judy

Our holidays were filled with fun family gatherings, lots of eating, and lots of movie watching.

Dark Waters, the true story about the lawyer that exposed DuPont’s dumping of toxic chemicals in West Virginia waters, made me paranoid about my cookware. I know I’m not alone in thinking I have to replace a few old non-stick frying pans. Scary and sobering and a reminder how important science  is and how government regulations and oversight must continue to protect consumers.

Renee Zellweger convincingly plays (and sings) Judy Garland in Judy, a biopic about the star’s last concerts in London. While it’s well known about how she was mistreated as a child star with starvation diets and pills to keep her young looking, what’s extremely sad is seeing how this affected her entire life. Despite being beloved in London, Garland is separated from her children, adding to her depression and substance dependency.

See Knives Out, a fun who-done-it caper packed with stars.

Then there’s Little Women. At first I resisted this one, as I’m still unsure about having classics rewritten and reinterpreted. I also loved the 1994 movie starring Winona Ryder and Christian Bale. But the film has received so much publicity; it seemed every time I turned on the radio or television I heard an interview with Greta Gerwig, the director. It was a rainy afternoon and the movie was showing nearby, so we went. My husband was one of three men in the theater.

The film starts nearly at the end of the story and jumps around chronologically. It took a little getting used to. The setting is pure New England and the pond ice-skating made us both miss our own childhoods before climate change made that activity practically obsolete. My only complaint is the casting of Timothee Chalamet as Laurie. He’s young and very skinny and doesn’t seem too into the part. My husband didn’t understand my grumbling and I explained that every girl of any age that sees Little Women wants to fall in love with Laurie and this actor didn’t do it for me.

This adaptation makes the others seem a bit saccharine and sentimental. Life in the 1860’s   wasn’t so terrific, especially for women. Jo perseveres and becomes the writer we all dream about and it remains a lovely family story. I wrote about the longevity of Little Women here: https://cyclingrandma.wordpress.com/2018/10/11/happy-birthday-frankenstein-little-women/

Also worth seeing: Marriage Story, Maiden, and The Nightingale.

Any suggestions for others? I’m also looking for some good book ideas as nothing has grabbed hold for a while.

Happy New Year!

 

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Finished Projects: Cowls, Crowns & a Cardigan

 

When I travel, I like small knitting projects that squish easily into my carry-on bag and are handy for car transfers. I had some grey alpaca yarn and a pattern for a cabled cowl that I brought on a trip to California last spring. However when I started the pattern, I realized it wasn’t working well for the yarn. I probably needed thicker yarn and needles. What to do? I can’t read in a car, and hate being idle.

So I invented a pattern, that I’m calling the Sonoma Cowl. After finishing my own, I made four more for presents. It’s an easy, knit-in –the –round pattern that uses under 200 yards of worsted weight yarn (perfect for tackling the stash), and has four stitch patterns that make the project go quickly and keep it interesting.

Here are the cowls:

Here’s the pattern:

Cast on 100 stitches. Work one or two rows of garter stitch and then carefully join in the round being careful not to twist the stitches.

Begin rib stitch: Knit 3, Purl 2 for about 3 inches. (You can do 2 knit, 2 purl too if you prefer a tighter rib.)

Knit a row and decrease every 10 stitches (knit two together) to 90 stitches.

Begin zig zag pattern. I don’t know if there’s a proper name for this stitch but this is what I did:

Round one: Knit 8, purl 1
Round two: Knit 7, purl 1
Round three: Knit 6, purl 1

Continue this way- your line of purl stitches will move right for a few more rows or as much as you like, then do the reverse to create the zig zag: Purl one, knit 6, Purl one, knit seven. You can also do this the other way around.

After about three inches of this, knit a row and decrease again every 9 stitches. (to 80 stitches)

Begin Mock Cable:

R1: sl 1 , k2, psso, p 2
R2: k1, yo, k1, p2
R3 & R4: K3, p2

Do this for another three inches. Then do a few rounds of garter stitch—knit every round. This will give the cowl a nice roll neck. Bind off loosely using a larger sized needle.

There’s no real guage. You can vary the stitches, the length. If you have questions, please email me

I made seven (yes, 7!) crowns for the grandkids I’ll be visiting in a couple months in Israel.

And finally, I made my grand-daughter another fair isle cardigan to replace a previous one she outgrew and is now being enjoyed by her younger cousin.

I hope your holidays are filled with wonderful knitting projects!

 

 

 

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